Sasha Nemtsov
New Order Logistics
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Posted - 2017.03.26 20:28:20 -
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LordOdysseus wrote:
I don't expect this post to change anything. I just wanted to share my thoughts with you because I think it is worth sharing.
There's a saying which goes:
"Every person you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always."
It has the ring of authenticity about it, and initially I accepted it as true and promised myself to take on board the proffered advice. However, I soon forgot those words and discarded (perhaps even sooner), the advice.
Your post resurrected the quote, which had apparently remained intact in my head.
In a past job I had the privilege of reading a great number of suicide notes. I say 'privilege' because some people, on the very point of ending their lives, become possessed of a kind of eerie wisdom which should shake the very mountains with its awful simplicity.
It is snippets from those messages which I do still recall, many years after I first read them. They have been useful to me, but not in any conscious way. From the 17 year old lad who left us, writing only 'f*** everyone', to the cultured elderly lady who covered page after page in a close barely-legible scrawl (an autobiography, essentially), the ones who write (not all do) are earnest in sending us a message, almost from beyond; or else why do it? We should take note of what they say.
People will tell you that the mind of someone intent on ending their life is a complex mix of current problems and historical issues which require a professional to fully grasp, and a 'care-plan' in the form of a rescue. This may be true, but I tell you from my experience that what is also common to all suicides is this: they lose hope.
If, in being kind to folks, you are able to encourage them to regain that hope (not 'be optimistic' or 'look on the bright side') you will have done more than a freighter full of psychiatrists. You will also have succeeded in doing the near-impossible.
So yes, be kind; but understand yourself; you're also fighting a battle no-one knows anything about. Your body, mind, spirit, and emotions - all deserve kindness (which is really just concerned and helpful attention) - from you.
I don't go around trying to spot opportunities to 'help'. Rather, opportunities present themselves in a natural way.
To the OP: Thank you for having the will to publish that letter. Let's hope that it reaches the person who needs it most.
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